neuroscience for kids is just right for me
Fill In These Things About You
- Name: Caroline
- Birthday: May 23
- Height: 5'4"
- Eye color: brown
- Hair color: dark brown
- Random fact about you: My nail polish is a glittery blue
- Favorite band: Cannot pick one
- Favorite song: Also can't do it
- Favorite food: anything with carbs and fat
- Favorite season: fall
- Favorite animal: my brother's cats and ocelots, and all dogs ever
- Favorite movie: Girl, Interrupted
- Anything you need to work on?: studying for exams
- Are you friends with your ex?: no
- Do you prefer someone shorter or taller?: tallerish
- Dark hair or light hair?: dark
- Smart or attractive?: smart
- Is creativity attractive?: yes
- Do you care how much money they have?: a little
- Your last text: yo are you still working at pump jw
- Last one i received: no
- The last thing you ate: bagel with whitefish
- The last thing you drank: diet black cherry soda
- The last song you listened to: "More News from Nowhere" by Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds
- The last book you read: Lolita by Nabakov
- The last movie you watched: The Bling Ring
- Do you play any instruments?: no
- What are you pets’ names?: I don't have any pets
- A random childhood memory: In the 5th grade my class and I went to the White House to sing Christmas carols and I fainted because idk
- Your favorite color to wear: apparently blue
By inundating girls and women with the message that their most worthy attribute is their sexual hotness and crowding out other messages, pop culture is grooming them just like an individual perpetrator would. It is slowly chipping away at their self-esteem, stripping them of a sense of themselves as whole human beings, and providing them with an identity that emphasizes sex and de-emphasizes every other human attribute.
Gail Dines, Pornland
In my experience, this message does not have to be the predominant one for it to crowd out other messages. I got plenty of encouragement that there were more valuable attributes than “hotness.” Perhaps one of the problems was that possessing any of those other more wholesome attributes wouldn’t overshadow the fact that superficial appearances are of utmost importance, a prerequisite to the other things mattering. And there’s no way to be physically presentable other than being fuckable, and appealing to the male gaze. Sex, in the form of female sexual performance, is just infused in every aspect of a girl and woman’s life. Even the most modest clothing, professional clothing, is sloppy - SLOPPY - unless it gives some hint of the female form, tailored just so, nipped in at the waist to indicate curves and breasts.
Pop culture has certainly makes things more overt and inescapable, but we must resist a whole lot more than current pop culture to avoid this very tangible grooming of girls and women for sexual exploitation. Porn - and I’m strictly talking about softcore here - is just our education that drives home what exactly is expected of us, stripped of the obvious pretense of being a complicated human being. It makes the link for girls (at least it did for me) between being a pretty pretty princess playing dress-up to the grown up world. It’s what lace is for, not pretty little doilies, but a peak-aboo fabric for lingerie. It’s what all that play make-up was for - not creative face painting, but to look tantalizing and ripe for the plucking. Porn is the realization that all these things are NOT for its own sake, but is in service to male consumption. Any fun or “empowerment” in is secondary - hell, if it’s fun, congrats we’ve been effectively groomed.
"If its fun, congrats we’ve been effectively groomed."